Sunday, September 26, 2010

Self Confidence

When a person is socially awkward they can feel as if the problem is genetic, the problem is in their DNA. This is far from the truth. Most social problems stem from the person's beliefs. If you don't believe in your own personal value, it will manifest in you life, and leave one feeling hopeless.
Getting out among people and engaging in conversation is the best solution. This can appear scary, but there is no painless solution. Personal fears need to be challenged.

Self help books are very much about cultivating a positive attitude in the reader. The danger is the reader may perceive the author as the source of hope, and not see the power lies within.

Bellow I have listed some of the books that have played a part in cultivating a positive thoughts in my life. I would be very interested in hearing about books or people who have helped you see the world is often a reflection of your thoughts.

Seeds of Hope
If your thinking is making you miserable because you can't see any good, here are some books that have helped me see the world in a better light.

Magic Of Thinking Big (A fireside book)

The Magic of Thinking Big, is a great book for inspiring confident thinking strategies. People with a confident attitude think differently to those who lack confidence.

Peaks and Valleys: Making Good And Bad Times Work For You--At Work And In Life
Avoid believing things are better than they really are when you are on a peak, or worse than they really are when you are in a valley. Make reality your friend. - Peaks and Valley by Spencer Johnson, M.D

Peaks and Valleys, show us that life is full of good times and bad times. When times are hard we need to focus on where we want our life to be. Our thoughts in the present play a big part in what we can expect from our future.

New Psycho-Cybernetics
Psycho-cybernetics, by Maxwell Maltz can help the reader see how thoughts affects a persons self-image.

Man's Search for Meaning
 Life is not primarily a quest for pleasure, as Freud believed, or a quest for power, as Alfred Adler taught, but a quest for meaning. The greatest task for any person is to find meaning in his or her life. Frankl saw three possible sources for meaning: in work (doing something significant), in love (caring for another person), and in courage during difficult times. - Man's Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl.
Man's Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl was a psychologist who spent time in a concentration camp. While their, he learned a lot about how people endure difficult times. In this book he show how a person's ability to survive is linked to the meaning in their life