The Sum of all Fear

Fear and Resistance

Between you and your goal is resistance. One should aim their life against the path with greatest resistance, that is where one will find the greatest personal rewards. Overcome your fear.

Clarity

Clarity of purpose will help fight the resistance created by fear. If you have a clear picture of your life, you can steer your destiny. In your mind; Start by creating a clear picture of each next action necessary to fulfill your vision; put your life in motion.

The Motivation

If I were to know that tomorrow I die, would I be at peace or a raving lunatic? How much more time do I need? What am I waiting for? How do I know tomorrow isn't the perfect time to die?

Life is a road with many peaks and valleys. Hopefully your not in a valley. But if you do find yourself at a low point in your life, remember this is where you learn about your spirit. The hard times are a test of your character and your ability to see past this moment of pain, and to envision a better future. This low point is the time to call on your courage and forge the will to create a better future.

The Importance of Relationships

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What matters most isn't what we do as individuals what is important is what we do together. That is what makes the world great. Find people to share your vision.

Relationships makes the world we know. (Don’t live alone.) -Life Lesson

Relationship Lessons from Basketball
I first started to think about the importance of relationships when I started playing basketball. I noticed how much the team was effected when players didn’t get along with each other. Relationships are important because no one lives alone in this world; it would be a mistake to plan your life individually. Everyone can benefit from developing the skills to negotiate relationships.
The Importance of Good Relationship
What matters most isn't what we do as individuals, what is important is what we do together. That is what makes the world great.
The Basketball Team
In a basketball team relationships are very important. Up until I started playing basketball I had taken my relationships for granted; they either worked or didn’t. I soon learned that was a mistake.
The Team
Basketball is a team sport; you need a team of people. To get on a team, one needs to learn about social value. I quickly learned nobody would have me on their team if I didn’t make friends. I also learned if I had good basketball skills, people would be more inclined to make friends with me.
Welcome to the real world 
Now that I had left school nobody would automatically include me. If I wanted to be part of the team, I needed to work at becoming a member. This was an ego bruising lesson, but it was an important lesson.
I had to learn about team value:

• What does the team need?
• What does the team like?
• What position would I play in the team?
• How could I get on a good team?

I had to make friends and earn my place on the team.
Make friends
You can have good skills, and still people won’t want to play with you. Friendship is important. You need to care about the team.
A Team Effort
Basketball was an important learning ground, and introduced me to a new circle of friends. Together we enjoyed the challenge of competition; together we played to win.
The bigger the success the more people involved.

Life Lessons

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I have been working on a list of life lessons to help focus my thoughts. The idea came to me from reading the book '7 Habits of Highly Effective People' and the blog 'The Happiness Project'.
“Bringing my life into congruence is like driving against the traffic; everyone toots their horn telling me I am heading in the wrong direction. It is not easy confronting other peoples expectations.”- Ideas from my phone

Life Lesson List
Here is a list of my life lessons. It is in no way complete. At times I change and refine the list.
Life Lessons:

1. Meaning in life is the motivation to action (If your not willing to sacrifice, it isn’t worth doing).
2. The meaning in one’s life should define what you do. (until you start doing things for yourself nothing will seem important).
3. Clarity (begin with an end in mind).
4. It is what you observe about life that makes it interesting.
5. Everything in life has a time cost. ( We don’t live forever, don’t waste time.)
6. Meaning is the reason for everything, the reason to overcome all obstacles
7. Long term value is worth more then short term pleasure.
8. The world owes me nothing. I have to earn it. (money and everything else)
9. Wealthy people notice the abundance around them. (Acres of Diamonds)
10. Relationships make the world we know. (Don’t live alone.)

Dr. Phil has another set of Life Laws.

What am I here to do?

Why Should I get out of Bed

During these hard times I have noticed a lack of motivation and energy in me. I sense the absence of purpose. Each day begins with the question, Why should I get out of bed?”

In my final years of high school I didn’t want to get out of bed; I would wake up tiered. Each day was long and tedious; school was a bore. At school I felt like my thoughts were being programmed into me and other people were making choices for me. I needed change. I needed control over my life.
Okay that is the back story. Now lets jump to the present and see how things changed things
A good Question will Inspire You
Looking back now I think the boredom was a natural stage of life. It forced me to look inside myself and discover what was important. Growing up I had let other people control my life, and it left me feeling like my life was meaningless. I lost control of my life and needed to get it back.
It took six years of high school to start thinking about my future, I can still remember being frightened by life after school. Since those day’s my life has changed, a lot. I have had to reinvent myself. My life has become a progression towards ownership of my thoughts and a mission to ‘Cultivate my Mind.' The mission has come to define who I am and what I do.
One simple question inspired my change. All I needed to do was learn about myself. I needed to know

“What do I enjoy?”

When you know what you want you can set your mind to create the new life you want.
Now

• I wake up fresh


• I have many things to do each day


• I go to bed tiered


• My life is a never ending mission of self improvement

Things I enjoy doing

• Cycling


• Travelling


• Cooking


• Writing


• Reading